Every week, I sit on my therapist’s couch to discuss life, and I’m open about this with many people. Up to 3% of Americans deal with dysthymia every year. Many are dating or looking for a romantic relationship.
But when looking for a serious romantic partner, those of us with a mental illness walk a tricky tightrope.
It's a bit like diabetes: if I keep taking the tablets, I'm fine. I have friends who know about my diagnosis, and some colleagues who presumably don't (although these days if you Google my name, you find the articles I have written about my mental health).
But being schizophrenic has complicated my romantic life.
You have a right to privacy, but at a certain point your date deserves honesty. Here are five tips I’ve figured out in the murky world of dating. Do Your Research If you do online dating, some sites, like OKCupid and Match.com, allow you to see someone’s views on different issues.
Before you decide to meet, check out what they think about mental illness.
For a start, there is the casual prejudice of terms such as 'psycho' and 'mental' being bandied around when cracking dating jokes with friends.
Whether it was being forbidden to eat grains as a baby, following an acid-free diet as a refluxing toddler, using the six-food-elimination diet to uncover the cause of her (incorrectly-diagnosed) eosinophilic esophagitis as a little girl, or choking down the unpleasant fat-free food that kept her safe from chylothorax after her cardiac surgery, we often had to define what our whole family ate by the things that she had to avoid.
That definition has now been scrapped (psychiatric texts are constantly in review, as medical understanding of mental health grows) and officially I now suffer from paranoid schizophrenia.
I take medication every day to control my condition, and to all intents you would never know unless I told you. I am a freelance writer, having worked since school in newspapers.
Do you want to date someone that thinks therapy is useless?
You don’t need to stalk a potential date, but you can use the information at hand to decide if someone will accept you as you are. Don’t Jump The Gun One reaction I’ve seen a lot is the tendency to !