It was called “I Kissed Dating Goodbye.” When it first came out in 1997, a lot of people read it. And many others thought it was terrible — and told me so.For a long time I ignored the voices of those who didn’t appreciate my book or its ideas on relationships.About six years ago when I was still a pastor I was sitting in my living room with members of my church who had come to talk about weaknesses in our church’s leadership and culture.The gathering came about following a sermon I had preached from 1 Peter 5:3 that says pastors are not to “Lord over” or be “domineering” towards the people in the congregation. Joshua Harris shares his story of giving up dating and discovering that God has something even better- a life of sincere love, true purity, and purposeful singleness. Have you tasted pain in dating, drifted through one romance or, possibly, several of them? I Kissed Dating Goodbye shows what it means to entrust your love life to God.As you probably know, I’ve had a few things to say about his book over the years.This was the first time we spoke over the phone, and you will want to listen to what he has to say about his book. TLDR: It turns out that Harris is a fan of my book Courtship in Crisis which was a pleasant surprise.
While I still held on tightly to the rules of purity culture, I was clear on many of the ways race affected my life.If we get it wrong then our whole life will be wrong.In these four thought-provoking sessions of this youth Bible study, students share the honest doubts and struggles they have about their own faith.My introduction to sex education was not presented as something that loving partners did to care for each other, but rather something horrific and ugly that a man did to a woman or child.I learned very quickly that sex was shameful, and not something you talked about openly.